Tell a Story to Take Your Dancing to the Next Level

If you’ve ever been on a long car trip as a kid, you may have played the same game my siblings and I used to play.  First, we’d watch the cars go by and check out their license plates to see where they came from. Then we’d make up a story about them.  It was fun because we had to use the clues around us to tell the story. Also, it was a great way to develop our creativity…and it made the time pass more quickly.

Express your creativity as you tell a story.

Telling a story is one way to express the music when you dance. 

How do you do it?


Pay attention to the music when you’re dancing. Not just the beat; listen to the melody and the words, too. A good way to begin is to let the words tell the story and all you have to do is express it.


How does the music make you feel? Is it lovely, lilting, soft, and swirly? Does it make you feel so light you could be dancing on a cloud? On the other hand, perhaps it has a super-strong beat and a fast pace. If that’s the case, no doubt you feel more grounded. It’s as if your spirit has been taken over by the power of this song. You can’t be still.


Above all, you need to have confidence in yourself, your company, and your surroundings to let it all hang out.

Take a look at this Dance Safari post, “Types of Waltz in Ballroom Dancing” to get a feel for the softness you’d express while doing the Waltz.

Why bother telling a story?

It’s all about expressing yourself.  

  • An actor reciting his lines without putting some feeling into it won’t be an actor for long.
  • A child who wants you to buy him a new toy will put his heart and soul into explaining how much it would mean to him.
  • When you receive a gift that’s perfect, you search for the right words to express your gratitude.

It’s the same when we perform a ballroom dance.

Obviously, if you’re performing you’re going to want to do your best.  You learned your steps and memorized the choreography. But, there’s more to demonstrating a ballroom dance than that.  You do yourself and your audience a disservice if you don’t let them in on the story behind the dance.

The first thing to figure out in a ballroom performance or demonstration is the story you want to tell. It’s really up to the music. For example, a steamy, sexy performance won’t fit very well with a piece of honky-tonk, feel-good music. On the other hand, it would work perfectly with a beautiful Rumba or Bolero.

What about using expression in social dancing?

Why not? Most people consider it the icing on the cake. Really feeling the music and using your body to express it is guaranteed to make you feel good. When you’re in touch with the music, it’s in charge.

Watch a little kid start dancing when he hears an upbeat song. He can’t control it; it moves him and he goes with it. I know, ’cause I just watched my 2-year-old grandson do that. He couldn’t quit if he wanted to. Now, that’s being one with the music.

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    • Ain’t it the truth, Diane. That’s because they give their soul to the music. Also, they aren’t self-conscious at all. Ah, those were the days!
      Have a good one.

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