Newly Divorced Man? Learn to Dance!

Many times, as we start a new phase in our lives, we look within to see how we can improve ourselves. Ultimately, we ask what can we do better? If you’re a newly divorced man, you may turn to diet and exercise. Some guys will update and upgrade their wardrobe, while others will throw themselves into their work. Learning to ballroom dance is another way to go. To be sure, any man who’s taken up dancing will highly recommend it.

How can a divorced man use dancing to get out of his funk?

First, let’s get this out of the way. You probably should have learned to dance when she asked you to.

When you were married, there was at least one time that your wife wanted to dance with you. It could have been at a wedding, on a cruise, or a Friday night at the club. But, you didn’t consider yourself a dancer and refused to put yourself out there. Some dance lessons would have helped. Some say they’re better than marriage counseling.

Women see ballroom dancing as a safe way to meet single men.

Now that you’re back on the market, why not get in on some good clean fun? As a dancer, when you find yourself in a situation where there’s music, you won’t be sitting on the sidelines nursing your beer. Not only that, but it’s good manners to dance with a variety of partners. For that reason, don’t hesitate to spread yourself around.

All women love to dance.

This is not an exaggeration. There’s something about moving to the music that not only makes us feel joyful and light, but beautiful as well. We’re free to move wherever the music takes us as it gently guides us away from stress and fear. Just look at that dreamy gaze in a woman’s eyes when she’s dancing. As you can see, it means a lot to her.

Isn’t it ironic that ballroom dancing isn’t useful unless you need to dance?

In reality, it’s a manly skill that all men should know, like splitting wood, changing a tire, or shuffling cards. A man who knows how to dance is a valuable commodity. Women want to follow the man who moves with confidence on the dance floor.

Sometimes a divorced man will miss being close to other people.

On the dance floor, it’s perfectly acceptable to hold a woman close, even if you just met her. In fact, not only is it admissible, but it’s required. What a delightful way to connect with the opposite sex!

You will meet new people.

It’s time to make new friends outside of the couple’s circle. I hate to break it to you, but you might lose some friends that you made as a couple. As a single man, you could be considered a “third wheel”. Head that off at the pass by building new relationships with your dancing buddies.

Are you lonesome tonight?

newly divorced man learn to dance

Learning a new activity takes your mind off of your current status and gives you something to look forward to. Although you have different options when it comes to lessons, ballroom dance studios offer private lessons, group classes, and dance parties. In truth, it’s like having a membership in your very own dance club.

It’s an opportunity for a single guy to dress up and go out.

Wouldn’t it be nice to get home after work and get out of your work clothes and into your dancing clothes? Maybe you’ll even be a little more creative in your style than you are during the work day.

Don’t forget to get proper ballroom dance shoes. Of course, they make a big difference. For help in choosing the right shoe, ask your teacher or a dancing friend about where to get them and how they should fit.

Ladies love to dance. I can’t stress this enough.

Nothing impresses a woman more than a man who knows how to dance. And by dance, I mean ballroom dancing where you lead a gal across the dance floor. None of that “nae nae” nonsense. Basic ballroom dancing isn’t that hard. Start off with the waltz and foxtrot and you’ll be good for most weddings and cruises.”  Picture and quote courtesy of

Looking for a way to get started?

Please read this Dance Safari post entitled, “Getting Started with Your Ballroom Dance Lessons“. It’ll give you a heads-up on the different ways you can improve with lessons.

Starting over isn’t always a bad thing. As a newly divorced man, just think about all the important lessons you’ve learned in your life. It’s not too late to grow. So get out there and have some fun!

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    • I think so, too. Maybe I’m not so humble, but my experience in the dance business has shown that it’s a wise man who turns to dance. He’ll find his opportunities for happiness increase as his confidence on the dance floor grows.

      Thanks, Carolyn.

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