“Could I Have This Dance for the Rest of My Life?” 3 Ways to Prepare for Your First Dance

Your big day has finally arrived. 

You’re so happy to be able to enjoy it with friends and family.  But how will you share the memories with the ones who couldn’t be there?

Back in the day, it wasn’t so easy to share pictures.  You had to take your film somewhere to be developed.  Then it was a few days before it was ready. 

You could create a photo album to show visitors or maybe put a few copies in the mail.

Social media has changed all that.  It’s pretty clear that your first dance will be available for the whole world to see maybe even while you’re still on the dance floor via Facebook Live

Do yourselves a favor and prepare for it so you can do more than the ‘prom rock’ for 3-5 minutes.  love-1179726_1920

One of many wedding traditions, the first dance kicks off the party and opens the dance floor to guests.  It is symbolic in that as you start your life together as husband and wife, the dance begins.  

A new partnership demands give and take both on the dance floor and off.

There is so much to be done to prepare for your wedding.  Rather than adding to the pressure, it’s nice to take the time to learn to dance together.  

Gentlemen, please know that your lady wants to dance with you.  You’re her best partner and she’ll be thrilled that you actually did this with her. 

Better yet, make it your idea!

Basically, you’ll want to get the dance lessons taken care of well before the appointed day. This will give you plenty of time to practice and it won’t be a chore at the last minute when you have so many loose ends to tie up.  

If you need a brush-up lesson, it’s easy enough to arrange.

Many couples have a special song that they’d like to dance to.  And, of course, there’s probably a vision of the dance that the bride or groom have.  

This is the reason it’s recommended that you request a consultation with an instructor or studio to discuss the possibilities.

You’ll also need to have a mini-lesson.  This will allow you to see what the teaching is like and the instructor can evaluate your abilities.

After that, the question is, what to do for the first dance?  In my opinion, you have three choices:

  1. You and your fiance can learn to dance.  When the music starts he leads, she follows and off you go.  Simple and cost-effective in that you will have developed a skill that you’ll use for your lifetime.  
  2. You can get some ‘light’ choreography.  This would be groupings of easy to remember steps (we call them combinations) that are separated by a few basics in between.  If you do three basics instead of two you won’t mess up the routine.
  3. You can learn a fully-choreographed routine.  This is “Dancing with the Stars”,  choreographed from start to finish to each beat of the music.  Usually includes some fancier moves (lifts, dips, side-by-side). Even the walk-on and walk-off are choreographed.  The downside to this spectacular is that you can only do it to one piece of music.  

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    First Dance Routine with Lift

If you’ve always dreamed about how your first dance would be, please make sure you communicate that to your instructor.

Once you’ve tried a lesson and are convinced that (a) you can learn and (b) you’ve picked the right teacher, it’s time to get started.

What are you waiting for?

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