5 Ways Fear Stops You from Dancing

I love meeting new people because when I tell them that I’m a ballroom dance teacher they get very excited.   “I’ve always wanted to learn ballroom dancing.”  I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who didn’t want to know how to dance.  

So, what stops people from taking dance lessons? 

It’s fear.  Fear of the unknown or fear of failure.  When it comes to dancing, some people are:shy because she doesn't know how to dance

…embarrassed that they don’t already know what to do on the dance floor.

…shy when it comes to meeting new people and making new friends.

…afraid they can’t learn to move to the music.

…convinced they will look foolish.

…teased about how they move by a spouse, partner, or friend, making them self-conscious.

Any or all of the above may be your issue when it comes to social dancing.

But here’s the reality from a professional’s point of view.

embarrassed?  First and foremost, nobody is a natural dancer.  You have to be taught.  If you were to walk into a ballroom studio, a community group lesson, a club or bar that has live music, guess what you’d find.  That’s right, a bunch of people who don’t know partner dancing.  You’re not alone.

shy?   Because this is a social event, you’re gonna have to step out of your comfort zone.   As a matter of fact, you’ll expand your social circle as you meet a bunch of new people who share your interest.

afraid?  Developing this skill is as simple as walking.  Don’t believe it?  Yup, it’s true!  In short, it’s all about directional movement – forward, back, to the left, to the right.  That’s it, I promise.  Overanalyzing tends to complicate simple things.

look foolish?  Give yourself a chance to cut up and move to the music like you did when you were a kid.  Isn’t it true that the little ones are totally relaxed when it comes to shaking their booties?  In reality, most people aren’t judging you.  They’re more concerned with how they look than how you look.  

Check out this video, “Babies Dancing in Diapers”.  Too cute.

self-conscious?  And, finally, don’t listen to anybody who makes you feel like you don’t have the ability to do this. Forget about what others say, let your teachers do their job.

So there you have it.  Now that you know what’s stopping you from learning how to dance, let’s fix this.  super heroes know how to dance

To this end, I have a suggestion.  Why don’t you put on your superhero cape and read this Dance Safari post, “Try It, You’ll Like It!  A Few Affordable Ways to Check Out a Ballroom Dance Studio”.  I like this quote, “Take more chances, dance more dances”.  Why not?

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