5 Ways Fear Stops You from Dancing

I love meeting new people because when I tell them that I’m a ballroom dance teacher they get very excited.   “I’ve always wanted to learn ballroom dancing.”  I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who didn’t want to know how to dance.  

So, what stops people from taking social dance lessons? 

It’s fear.  Of the unknown or failure.  Some people are:shy because she doesn't know how to dance

  1. …embarrassed that they don’t already know how to dance.
  2. …shy when it comes to meeting new people and making new friends.
  3. …afraid they can’t learn to move to the music.
  4. …convinced they will look foolish.
  5. …teased about how they move by a spouse, partner, or friend, making them self-conscious.

Any or all of the above may be your issue when it comes to learning how to dance.

But here’s the reality from a professional’s point of view.

  1. embarrassed?  First and foremost, nobody is a natural dancer.  You have to be taught.  You’re going to walk into a ballroom dance studio, a community group dance lesson, or a club or bar that has a dance lesson before the live music starts.  And guess what you’ll find.  That’s right, a bunch of people who don’t know how to dance.  You are not alone.
  2. shy? Dancing is going to be a problem if you want to keep to yourself.  You’re gonna have to step out of your comfort zone.  This is a social event.   To be sure, you will meet bunches of new people who share an interest in ballroom dancing.
  3. afraid?  Learning to dance is as simple as walking.  Don’t believe it?  Yup!  In short, it’s all about directional movement – forward, back, to the left, to the right.  That’s it, I promise.  Overanalyzing tends to complicate simple things.
  4. look foolish?  Give yourself a chance to cut up and move to the music like you did when you were a kid.  Isn’t it true that the little ones are totally relaxed when it comes to shaking their booties?  Unless you’re a highly accomplished competitive or show dancer, most people aren’t judging you.  That’s because they’re more concerned with how they themselves look.  
  5. self-conscious?  And, finally, don’t listen to anybody who makes you feel like you don’t have the ability to do this. When it comes to teaching you how to dance, your instructor is the expert on you.  Let your teachers do their job.

So there you have it.  You now know what’s stopping you from dancing.  Let’s fix this.  super heroes know how to dance

To this end, I have a suggestion.  Why don’t you put on your superhero cape and read this Dance Safari post, “Try It, You’ll Like It!  A Few Affordable Ways to Check Out a Ballroom Dance Studio”.  I like this quote from an unknown source, “Take more chances, dance more dances”.  Why not?

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