5 Ways Fear Stops You from Dancing

I love meeting new people.  When I tell an acquaintance that I’m a ballroom dance teacher, their reply is, without exception, “I’ve always wanted to learn ballroom dancing.” 

I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who didn’t want to learn to dance.  So, what stops people from taking social dancing lessons?  

Fear of the unknown.  Fear of failure.  Fear of trying something new.  Some people are…

  1. …embarrassed that they don’t know how to dance already.
  2. …shy when it comes to meeting new people and making new friends.
  3. …afraid they can’t learn to move to the music.
  4. …don’t want to look foolish as they try new things.
  5. …have a spouse, partner, or friend that makes fun of how they move, making them self-conscious.shy-863056__340

Any or all of the above may be your issue, but here’s the reality.  From a professional’s point of view.

  1. …embarrassed?  Nobody is a natural dancer.  You have to be taught.  You’re going to walk into a ballroom dance studio or a community group dance lesson or a club or bar that has a dance lesson before the live music starts.  Guess what you’ll find.  A bunch of people who don’t know how to dance.  You are not alone.
  2. …shy? If you like to keep to yourself, you’re gonna have to get out of your comfort zone.  This is a social event and you will meet bunches of new people who all share a similar interest – ballroom dancing.
  3. …afraid?  Learning to dance is as simple as walking.  Don’t believe it?  Yup!  It’s all about directional movement – forward, back, to the left, to the right.  That’s it, I promise.  When we overanalyze we tend to make it more complicated than it is.
  4. …foolish?  Give yourself a chance to cut up and move to the music like you did when you were a kid.  Kids are totally relaxed when it comes to shaking their bodies.  Unless you’re a highly accomplished competitive or show dancer, most people aren’t concerned with how you look – they’re too worried about how they look.  
  5. …self-conscious?  And, finally, don’t listen to anybody who makes you feel like you don’t have the ability to do this.  When it comes to learning to dance, your instructor is the expert on you.  Let your teachers do their job.

So there you have it.  You now know what’s stopping you from dancing.  Let’s fix this.  super-hero-3083468__340Put on your superhero cape and read my article “Try It, You’ll Like It!  A Few Affordable Ways to Check Out a Ballroom Dance Studio”.

I like this quote from an unknown source, “Take more chances, dance more dances”.

Why not?

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